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Paperback: 150 pages
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5 of 5 people found the following review to be helpful:

Pushing the Envelope,  February 6, 2002

By Maria E. Hill

I have read many books on relationships. Many offer insights but little potential for lasting improvements. This book goes beyond the traditional relationship approaches to focus on the driving factor in our relationships: how we think about another person and how that thinking limits what is possible for us. Rather than tinkering with behaviors and results, Carl leaps to attitude and options, which provides anyone who wants more enjoyable relationships with an innovative tool to make their lives at home and at work more enjoyable and satisfying for themselves and everyone else.

At first I thought, the ideas were very simple until I realized how revolutionary they are. I recommend this book to anyone who wants to take their relationships to a different level. It certainly gave me much to think about. I am grateful to Carl for his work. I consider "True Partnership" a must read!





3 of 3 people found the following review to be helpful:

Get Out Of That "Drift!",  May 20, 2002

By Maria E. Hill

Carl Zaiss makes the bold statement in his new book that "there are things we can do to build a stronger relationship no matter what the other person does." In this fantastic book, the author contrasts "The Drift," his term for traditional ways of thinking and relating to other people, with "True Partnership," in which efforts are focused on enhancing the relationship itself. If things aren't going your way at work or at home because of "those other people in your life, who won't do what they should do" then take heart - this is a very encouraging book that shows you how to stop trying to change other people (and yourself) and instead focus on changing the relationships themselves. Techniques include connecting with others by realizing the interdependence of us all on each other; communicating with intent to constantly improve the quality of communications; expanding from an "either/or" mentality to a "both/and" orientation; and observing not from one's initial "gut feeling" point of view but trying out different points of view to see if a new one helps resolve an old conflict. I really enjoyed this book and highly recommend it for those looking for a new communications, team building, or conflict management tool.





3 of 3 people found the following review to be helpful:

An Idea New to Me,  February 7, 2002

By neal mckinney

I thought I had heard all the personal development ideas and buzz words. My wife and I had spent a lot of time (and money) in personal development and appreciation of each other's identities. What's different about Zaiss's approach is the emphasis on the relationship, not the individuals. So Karen and I can forget about how we interact as individuals. We can also forget about aspects of each other that we would like to have different, because they don't necessariy matter. We can both be individually unsuitable for each other and still develop a great relationship. Wow. Now here's something to work on.





2 of 2 people found the following review to be helpful:

Change, Partenrships and Transformation,  March 13, 2002

By Lynda Poll, Change and Transition Consultant

Those of us in the change and transition business are vocal, loud and some would say, obnoxious advocates for recognizing the human side and impact of change. Too often our words fall on deaf ears...with "True Partnerships" we finally have a text that deals with NEW principles for relating to others during, before and after change. We finally have a text that deals with the potential destructiveness of autonomy, power, scarcity mentality and victimhood. Instead this book awakens a call to action for relationships that produce extraordinary results by shifting our philosophy to one of connection, communication, expansion and creator/observer. It is powerful, beyond words and is guaranteed to cause you to examine your own approach of "drift" versus "true partnership." It can shake you up and transform your relationships at work, at home and everywhere inbetween. Read it and begin relating differently today.





2 of 2 people found the following review to be helpful:

Practical and approachable,  February 11, 2002

By Linda Tobey

Carl's book provides practical approaches to typical relationship issues. I find his work applicable to both professional and personal relationships and his suggestions foundational and doable. He covers a broad range of ways we "drift" in relationships and how to bring ourselves into "true" partnerships. These kinds of strategies were familiar to me as someone who has read a lot on improving and sustaining relationships, but this book brings it all together. It is a clearly written, engaging invitation to take responsibility for yourself to create true partnerships.







  • Shows how, by focusing on the quality of our relationships with people rather than trying to manipulate them into serving our purposes, we can actually achieve more of our goals.
  • Exposes the limitations of traditional performance improvement strategies.
  • Offers a deeper understanding of the often used but seldom understood term "partnership".
  • Provides a wealth of examples and real-life stories showing how this new framework has provided people with extraordinary levels of satisfaction and accomplishment.

"We are all capable of producing more than we typically do. The very nature of our relationships undermines individual and organizational effectiveness." With this uncompromising statement, author Carl Zaiss takes us on an inspiring journey that opens the door to unprecedented levels of individual and organizational performance.

Written for today's complex business arena and rapidly changing world, True Partnership - Revolutionary Thinking About Relating To Others, presents an in-depth look at this mind-altering new perspective for moving beyond the issues and constraints we all face as individuals and groups. It provides a provocative and spellbinding look at how what we take for granted actually sabotages our efforts at improving our own effectiveness and the productivity of the businesses, institutions, and organizations to which we belong.

True Partnership exposes the personal, organizational, and social costs of "the drift." The instinctive and taken-for-granted way of relating limits our effectiveness. The book exposes the four mistaken beliefs that form the drift and keep us from building productive relationships: seeing ourselves as separate and autonomous, relating to others through power and control, having an either/or mentality, and seeing the world as fixed and predetermined. Without distinguishing these four characteristics of the drift, they become our blind spot and sabotage any attempt at improving our effectiveness.

One of the common strategies for improving our ability to live and work together is to build a partnership. It refers to a relationship between people with an emphasis on teamwork and collaboration. Yet, most of what we call partnership is not and most partnerships do not access what is really possible. Due to the drift - the underlying nature of our relationships - our partnerships are often superficial and cosmetic.

True Partnership presents a new perspective, a new context, for our relationships generated by a fundamental shift in the way we, as individuals see the world. True partnership is a state of mind, not a type of relationship. It is a framework of relating to others that has an impact on each and every interaction. The four principles of true partnership include: seeing ourselves as interdependent parts of the whole, connecting to others through communication, operating from a both/and mentality, and relating to our world as observer-created.

True Partnership provides access to highly effective relationships and extraordinary levels of performance. This book challenges people to rethink their basic assumptions and adopt a revolutionary new mindset about their relationships and how they go about producing results at work and at home.

True Partnership is a powerful tool for anyone concerned about improving individual and organizational excellence.